Dad is depressed but still very bright. He appears weak and complains-although Dr's. cannot find anything "wrong" with him. He owns 2 condos in FL and just tried to move out of FL with my brother in AZ-he hated it and returned in 3 wks. to FL. Dad's plan 2 is to rotate his 4 kids fr. different states to come babysit him in FL. for months at a time. This is unreasonable. We have contacted local caretaker and friend of Dad who lives locally and is willing to come in several hrs. a day. Dad wants his kids to take care of him - we are going nowhere. His expectations are surreal. Any suggestions.
There is no way to avoid disappointing your father if he persists with this request. I'd suggest that you sit down with siblings and each talk about what's possible - what CAN you do to help your dad. Then rule out the things that WILL NOT work due to money, personalities, etc... Then all of you talk with your Dad at the same time or select the sibling that he trusts the most to discuss it. It will not be comfortable but it's something you must do.
It sounds like he doesn't want to be alone and wants to live in familiar surroundings - who doesn't? So - that said, you can make regular trips there. If possible, get him to move into an assisted living apartment where meals are served in mass. He can still keep his own car, participate as he pleases and get help when necessary. Tell him you'll go down to help him select one, move etc...
This is a really difficult situation and one where there's a risk that he'll get angry and be hurt. Expect that and keep telling him you love him. Go visit even if he tells you to stay away. I've seen people like this withdraw and then become vulnerable to manipulative jerks who just want money or belongings - isn't that our worst fear for our parents Ugh.... anyway.. best of luck and don't hesitate to ask more questions here. You'll get good advice from people who've been through all kinds of situations.