My Dad had cancer and they removed it, but now he is worse off than before the surgeries. He is 78 y.o. He is too weak to have a ureter rebuilt or his gallbladder removed. Who should be the director of his care? The urologist, The Kidney Dr? He has constant diarrhea and feels like throwing up a lot. The Doctors really are not giving me a clear path ahead on what to expect or how long my Dad can go on in this condition.
If they took your Dads bladder then the cancer must have gotten thru the bladder's lining and spread. Where they able too get it all. There are tests to find if it has spread. The gallbladder can be taken out thru 3 or so small incisions. So, I think your questions should be asked of the Urologist.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/an-end-of-life-conversation-led-by-gawandes-questions-205721.htm
For a more in depth article google Atul Gawande's 5 questions
Surgery is hard on most people at any age, but the older we get the harder the recovery is and it takes longer to heal.
Does your dad have a Health POA, if not and your dad is in the hospital you can talk to a social worker there. There are people on this forum that knows more about this than I do.
But I will tell you this, when my dad ever had surgery I asked the doctors every question I could think of and I didn't let them leave until I was satisfy with the answers. Of course, times were different than and my parents left all the medical chit chat up to me.
Is he still in the hospital? He can get dehydrated very quickly. You may need to be his voice or a sibling. My heart just breaks for the two of you.
May God be with you and your dad in your time of need. May He proved healing and strength in Jesus' name. Amen