We are worried she is a gold digger...
Two years after my mom passed away my dad had s massive heart attack, and my brother and I nursed my dad backed to health after his 3 week hospital stay. We contacted a home health agency the hospital recommended and they sent a caregiver over to take my dad to dr appointments, cook his meals and help with his laundry, etc. as we all live in other states. In a matter of a month or two, he was taking her to dinner and drinks and convinced her to quit her job. My dad is worth millions I should mention. He is 87 years old and the CG is 58. she has moved in with him, and he has attached a codicil to his will leaving her $200,000. He has also been making hefty withdrawals from a trust account into his checking account totaling $200,000 in the past month. My brother is trustee of his estate and has expressed concern to my dad, and my dad has been very evasive about it. We are worried she is trying to get his money. Any thoughts as to how we can find out? Asking him is out of the question!!!!
My mom passed away about 2 years ago. Dad still talks to her as if she's here. Then he catches himself and says that he forgot (that she's no longer here.) This past January, he took a liking to this one specific caregiver. She can do no wrong. What I would tell him, he tells me to shut up and don't talk about things I don't know anything about. Then she comes in, and says Exactly what I said to him, and he's all for doing anything to please her. And she took advantage of this. She would pop in during off-hours and dad would give her $80 every time she came. I finally realized that I allowed the situation to go too long when she promised to take my bedridden father on an outing. When I said no, she told my dad, he blasted me, and she said that she will take him. I reported her to my social worker..... So, if you guys have left your father alone with the caregiver, I can see where it's going now. If your dad is still competent, then he can do whatever he wants. It's his life, his money. I think it's time you all find the time to do regularly visits with your dad. Holidays would have been the best excuse for visits (more like personal check-ups on your father, his mental status, his living status, etc...)
I too have serious doubts about a professional cg that goes against the ethics of the profession in forming a personal relationship with the client like this. It raises all kind of flags, particularly given the age and health differences.