I'm dealing with my father-in-law that sees everything in a negative light. Nothing I do is right and he has very little to say to me. Recently, they placed him on hospice care and the second day of being in hospice care my mother got sick and had to have surgery. This was over a month ago, she is in a rehab facility at this time. I need help dealing with his attitude. He is 89 will be 90 June 12th. They gave him 3 weeks to live and that was the last part of February. I've been told because of my care he has done a complete turn around, but he doesn't remember that he is on hospice care. I'm at a loss as to how to make him happy.
Dear DoraRose, it's just part of the process. You can't take it personal. Don't neglect your momma for your FIL but he can't be too appreciative. He's doing the hard work of dying.
Seems your mother needs you.
It may not be important that he remembers he is on hospice?
My mother is so negative it makes your eyes burn. I have just had to accept that the warm sun will be too bright and too warm. The cool shade will be too cool and shady. The soft sweater will be too soft and the birds will sing to loudly.