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Thank you both, this is very helpful and yes very difficult to see our Mom like this who has been the pillar to us all. This came out of the blue and she actually got very angry the other day talking about this,,,,,,,she could not believe her Mother who she loved so dearly and adored would do this to her? Super awful! :(
Redirect your mom every time she asks about her parents. When your mom asks offer her a snack or bring her a treat like ice cream or a piece of chocolate or whatever else she may enjoy. Don't ignore her question, just say something like, "I'm not sure where they are right now mom, but let's have some ice cream and we'll see about finding them after we eat." Or do as gladimhere suggested and tell her that they're at work or on vacation or with friends, whatever is plausible to your mom, then redirect her with something else. Food, a movie, a puzzle, whatever will catch her interest for a little while.
I also agree that reminding your mom that her parents are dead serves no purpose and will only upset your mom. She doesn't live in this world anymore and can't be forced to live here with you. You have to go into her world and be with her there and in her world her parents are alive and she wants them.
Is it comfort she's looking for from her parents? If so heap extra hugs upon your mom. Hold her hand. Be reassuring and supportive.
It must be very difficult for you to see your mom like this. It's good that you reached out for assistance. I hope you continue to do so as you travel on this journey with your mom.
Assisted Living in the Memory Care area where the employees are trained to work with those with dementia and with a higher caregiver ratio. Who is caring for her now? This is a common problem. My mom did it and at first, being unknowledgeable in caring for someone with dementia initially would try to explain that they are gone. WRONG THING TO DO! She became despondent each time, upset that nobody had told her or that I must be lying.
The best way to deal with it is those very helpful therapeutic white lies. I would tell mom that her folks were on vacation and would be back tomorrow, or off to a conference, out of town on business. This worked much better and she was accepting of it. Sometimes I would tell her we will call them in the morning.
The trick is to learn that there is no way to explain or rationalize when dealing with dementia. They are living their own reality. When you travel that road with them instead of trying to get them to your reality caregiving will become easier.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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I also agree that reminding your mom that her parents are dead serves no purpose and will only upset your mom. She doesn't live in this world anymore and can't be forced to live here with you. You have to go into her world and be with her there and in her world her parents are alive and she wants them.
Is it comfort she's looking for from her parents? If so heap extra hugs upon your mom. Hold her hand. Be reassuring and supportive.
It must be very difficult for you to see your mom like this. It's good that you reached out for assistance. I hope you continue to do so as you travel on this journey with your mom.
The best way to deal with it is those very helpful therapeutic white lies. I would tell mom that her folks were on vacation and would be back tomorrow, or off to a conference, out of town on business. This worked much better and she was accepting of it. Sometimes I would tell her we will call them in the morning.
The trick is to learn that there is no way to explain or rationalize when dealing with dementia. They are living their own reality. When you travel that road with them instead of trying to get them to your reality caregiving will become easier.