He is 86 and my wife and me do everything for him. When we need to go away for a weekend, he pretends to take an overdose of paracetamols and ends up (again,) in hospital. He then refuses to eat and drink and goes into his "confused" mode. He hopes it will persuade the wife to cancel the trip away. It's becoming embarrassing for the NHS who really have had enough, as we have. He has been checked from head to toe and there is nothing physically and mentally wrong with him.We find it selfish and cruel on the people who give everything they can.
My dad couldn't have tylenol in his room in AL.
I would stop telling him you are going away. Don't visit everyday and let him get use to you guys not being available all the time.
please take your dad to a neurologist and have him tested. He needs help with his anxiety which can be excruciating. Sometimes we are so close to the situation that we can’t see what is happening.
Could you say a little more about your - your? Your wife's? - father, such as where he is living and what sort of support the two of you are providing for him?
For a start - where's he getting the paracetamol?