Mother in law just lost her husband who was her only caregiver. they refused to put her in home. now that he's gone she needs to go to a home where she can be taken care of 100% of the time. she is non ambulatory and needs 24/ care. as far as we know she is only on social security at this time. where do we start. the family has no money.
And, yes, most of the time Medicaid will require a five year look back, but not always. Accumulate as many of the documents that you can from her home and as far back as you can go. If you are honest and are able to show the caseworker what their situation was then they don't typically look back that far. For both my mom and my dad it was 6 months, because they didn't have any assets except for their home and a car. It all depends on their financial situation.
If she does have a home, it will more than likely need to be sold, then the profits, if any, will need to be used toward her nursing care. Once that is used up, then the nursing home will typically help you go through what needs to be done to apply for Medicaid. My father was in a skilled nursing home and the advocate helped me go through the process and they were very helpful.
My advice is to not panic. To get as much paperwork together as you can while she is mentally able to do so. Get a durable power of attorney in place by seeing an elder law attorney. They can also help you with the Medicaid process and the VA process.
Best of luck to you.