I been in this facility in Yonkers, NY 3 yrs. After 2 yrs of being here I started a relationship with another patient and now engaged. He's been discharged over a year now and since he's been gone it's like next thing we know there's a new rule just for him when he comes to visit me. Let me just mention we've never been caught doing the nasty because we haven't done that yet. The first time he came to visit he was told we can only visit in the main dining room where all other patients hang out. No privacy if I want to cry I won't. Every few months there's something different he use to wheel my chair to basement to smoke room then he was told he could bring me down just not go in the room. Few months later he wasn't able to bring me down at all. Then last week as he always does before he leaves he gets on elevator and drops me off on my floor. He was told he's no longer allowed to be on the elevator. Nothing was said to us by the nursing director who made this rule they told security who then told us. My question is even though I'm a competent 40 yr old sane woman this facility still needs my mother permission for anything. My fiancée is on my visiting list and able to take me out on pass because she knows as well as I do he won't hurt me or put me in harms way. Do him or I have any rights because all other visitors are allowed to visit in rooms, smoking room and not restricted. Can someone please help me.
Another thing to consider is the fact he's a former patient who used to live there. Your mom is probably your guardian from what you're describing, so you may actually want to talk to her as well. Another thing you can do is request to speak to your local APS or even a lawyer who specializes in these types of cases. You should be able to get a free consultation and even get the lawyer to get paid after they have handled your case. This would be called pro bono from what I've been told.
Another place you may want to speak to is your state civil rights department about this matter. Your state name and then civil rights department. For instance, if you live in Ohio, it would be called the Ohio civil rights department. I would definitely go for this especially since your money most likely goes to the nursing home. The civil rights department most likely has their own lawyers, I wouldn't be a bit surprised.