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My grandma has survived losing all 3 of her children,and her husband. My mom was her last child she lost and I told my mom that I would care for my grandma and take care of her, and I have been for years now. She tested positive for covid and had to go in hospital and she beat covid. But she's 105 and there saying she is refusing to eat or drink anything at all, yesterday she took some water swished it around and spit it out. She hasn't eaten or drank anything in days and the doctor said he thinks her body is shutting down. I have a breathing problem hospital is full of covid should I take a chance and try to go see her. I love her very much but I love my husband and our life together too. And my husband has a bad heart so covid would proably kill us. But I don't want my grandma to die alone. Confused.

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Td4lynch8, the hospitals in my area are refusing visitors, especially when one has had covid like your Grandmother who is still in the hospital.

It's amazing your Grandmother is 105, that is a rarely, and the fact that she had survived covid. It is my understanding that covid can scar the lungs which make breathing difficult. That could be the reason your Grandmother is not eating or drinking. She is choosing to breathe instead of eat/drink. She probably is on an IV solution which puts fluids into her body.

In some hospitals the staff are doing cellphone Zoom, or whatever they are called, where you and Grandmother can talk to each other. This probably is limited with the rise in covid cases, so if the Staff says no, there is a good reason.
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My heart goes out to you. Can you try asking the nurses on her floor? or the doctor, but yes I agree with someone's comment, it is ultimately up to you.
God bless her and you. xx
I'm praying for you.
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You know, I had a realization months ago with the constant statistics in my area. Each time I went to store I was exposed. Statistically speaking, most people have been. It was that realization that I became more careful....not just sanitzer, gloves, 3 masks, etc. When I got it, it was others coming to my home with no precautions.

The virus is unpredictable, I know people with preexisting conditions that should not have made it but did and vice versa.

Death is one of those things, how would you feel not going vs going. No one here can answer that question. Just decide and follos guidelines.
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Can you have your grandmother transferred to a Hospice facility? That way you can go visit her(taking the necessary precautions of course)and spend time with her before she passes, and there won't be as many people there to be concerned about getting Covid. That's just a thought. God bless you in this difficult time.
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Maybe you or your husband’s PCP might be able to give you some feedback as to just how risky it is at the hospital Grandma is in at this time?
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There will, yes, be some risk to you. There is no way to avoid that. I am so sorry.
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When our relative was dying in hospital, we were allowed to visit with precautions. If your grandma does not have CoVid, she most likely is in the area of the hospital where the CoVid patients are not allowed.

I believe it is safe to visit someone in a hospital. They have taken precautions to prevent the spread of the disease. Follow the directions of the medical professionals.

However, if you don't feel it is safe enough to visit, don't beat yourself up about it. I don't think anyone dies alone. All her loved ones are there with her, waiting to welcome her to the other side.

I'm sorry you are losing your grandmother.
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