I was serving appetizers on toothpicks and father in law comes over and asks for one. I pick up appetizer and he opens his mouth for me to put in. I felt weird but I did. However it just seems creepy. I did tell hubby and he just says “yeah sometimes he acts awkward”. So I guess no big deal. Hubby would rather ignore inappropriate behaviors than confront. This will not change.
MAybe next time put several on a plate and show him how to eat them. ALZ is a weird disease..
Find something that you are comfortable saying and start enforcing your boundaries.
I had to tell a filthy old geezer one time that if he didn't get his hand off me he would be drawing back a bloody stump. He knew by my tone, my body language and the angle of my hand that I wasn't repeating myself. Males have some really inappropriate ideas about harrassment of women being acceptable as long as they don't grab certain areas of our bodies or say certain words, time to educate him that he is not living with a woman that will accept being treated inappropriately, ever.
You can't count on your husband, so buck up and speak up to protect your space and person.
Encouraging you to put food in his mouth is waaaaay beyond gross. Double, triple, quadruple yuuuuk! I can’t believe you actually did it. And then allowed your man to simply shrug and get away with saying “oh, well...”
Where is your self-respect, girl?! Why have you you allowed this person to take over your home, turn you into his personal servant, allow you no privacy and now it sounds like he might be grooming you for what he hopes will be some fun times. And what the heck is your husband so afraid of with his father? Being turned over Dad’s knee? Come on! Stop accepting this old fertz cruddy behavior. We all told you that before. Stand up for yourself and the next time the old lech does something like that, put on your biker chick face and tell him to back off or you’re going to tie a knot in it.
They don't call em dirty old men because they don't bath regularly.