It is killing me to send her away but my brother will be only 5 minutes from her. I have MS and two hip replacements and have been taking care of her for 3 years now but its taking its toll on me and my husband. I am the only one doing everything for her. The guilt is killing.
And the alternative? A safe place to live...surrounded by peers...organized social programs...three healthy meals a day...young, strong and trained staff to help as needed...routine medical care on premise...smiling faces...accommodations designed to facilitate mom's physical limitations...
Will it take time for mom to adjust? Undoubtedly. But there comes a time in our lives when we have to do "the next right thing" even when our heart aches. This is your moment.
We love our parents with all of our hearts. And when we know we've done the best we can? Well, we simply must be content with that.
Call mom often...send her little inexpensive surprise packages once in a while...mail her cards and letters...visit when you can. She'll be okay. And your heart will heal.
It is YOUR turn Love..... care for YOU now! Big Hug!!
Time is the great healer. And it works faster than you might imagine.
If your mom has memory loss, she will adjust quickly. My mom forgot about her home very quickly, her beloved little dog (that she had had with her in AL died) and she forgot all about him in a week.
If your mom is mentally fit and rational, then I would just have a good, honest talk with her. She knows what your challenges are. She will understand.
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