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My mother has personality disorders and is also suffering from dementia. Her accusations toward my sister and me are so hurtful. But we have talked with her Dr. about the situation and he reassured us that he knows we are not trying to take her money and place her in a care facility before she is ready to be placed. You must remember she cannot reason and be logical anymore. As Kellyb said, take it with a grain of salt. Sometimes if you can divert your mother's attention to something else it will help to calm her down and move her thoughts to something more pleasant. Maybe take her for a walk or to a park. If you raised children, use the same tactics you did when they were young and not able to be reasonable. My heart goes out to you and I hope this helps. This is my second go around with a parent with dementia. What I have to do with my mother is leave her alone for a while and she usually forgets her anger and then we can regroup. My mother is very combative and she refuses to have help in her home and just the other day threw a fit at the Dr.'s refusing a memory test. The Dr. suggested she see a neurologist instead, but she refused and says there is noting wrong with her other than old age. We have to play it day by day with her. I hope this helps and take care of yourself too.
I know what your going thru. My mom also has dementia, and is constantly losing things. Drives me insane!!! I relize she can't help it, and I usually tell her the same thing, and it seems to work "it will turn up" or "you will find it or run across it" Eases their mind on it for a while. I also am accused of taking her things. Not easy to be constantly accused of something you don't do, but just try to take it with a grain of salt. Alot of times I can go look for what she has lost, and walk up on it right away, so that solves that quick. Anyhow best of luck, Dealing with parent with dementia is highly frustrating, but this website is a great place for friends, and people like me going through the exact same issues. Take care:)
This is part of the dementia. The first and most important thing is not to take any of it personally. This is not your mother's behavior -- it is the dementia's. Make sure that her doctor knows of these new behaviors. If she doesn't have a doctor with lots of dementia experience, perhaps it would be worth finding one for her.
"I'm so sorry that your watch is missing, Mom. I would never deliberately cause you distress, but maybe I misplaced it by mistake. I will help you look for it." Often dementia sufferers develop common hiding places to keep their items "safe." Once you learn these places searching is often not too hard, but sometimes the places are so creative you just can't find the missing item. "Mom, maybe your watch will show up later, but for now, let's go to Target and pick you out a really fun watch to tide you over."
Certainly you're not going to admit to stealing -- that would make your mother unhappy, too. But you can try to accept her feelings, and comfort her. Let the meanness roll off your back -- it isn't really your mother saying these things. It is the disease and she can't help it. Try to divert her to another topic. Hug her. Tell her you are sorry she is so unhappy.
This is a very, very hard stage for caregivers. My heart goes out to you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
"I'm so sorry that your watch is missing, Mom. I would never deliberately cause you distress, but maybe I misplaced it by mistake. I will help you look for it." Often dementia sufferers develop common hiding places to keep their items "safe." Once you learn these places searching is often not too hard, but sometimes the places are so creative you just can't find the missing item. "Mom, maybe your watch will show up later, but for now, let's go to Target and pick you out a really fun watch to tide you over."
Certainly you're not going to admit to stealing -- that would make your mother unhappy, too. But you can try to accept her feelings, and comfort her. Let the meanness roll off your back -- it isn't really your mother saying these things. It is the disease and she can't help it. Try to divert her to another topic. Hug her. Tell her you are sorry she is so unhappy.
This is a very, very hard stage for caregivers. My heart goes out to you.