I am caring for my mother with the help of a nursing agency. My mother has extremely negative reactions to one of the nurses and screams at her to get out, and is convinced that everything is the nurse's fault (she is causing her rash, poisoning her, contaminating her creams, etc). When I try and explain how things really are, she gets angry at me for taking their side. Why is this, and how should I best deal with my mom at these times. I understand that she is in a confused state either because she's just woken up, hypoxia, dehydrated or needing to eat (diabetic), but why does she focus on one person.
Dealing with issues like this has really helped me in taking care of my mom. I have learned instead of getting upset, I need to step back and troubleshoot what is causing these emotions.
I am glad I could help.
Take care :)
Alot of times outside caregivers and patients don't mesh well. So since your mom is in a confused state this is her way of expressing that they don't click.
This could possibly be a phase until mom gets well accustomed to this one nurse. What its worth, be forward with nurse that its not her but mom. Maybe she can do things differently to get on your moms "good"side.