My father soaks his bed every night and wears depends. I have even purchased the thickest ones I could find. Its as though he is doing this intentionally. Does anyone have any suggestions to stop him from making such a mess of the bed every night. I would like to counteract this problem. He knows that it is very upsetting to my mother who cleans up after him every morning.
I hope this does not seem too stern, its just that if you can catch the behavior before it goes on longer, he & your mom will both have a better quality of life and you can focus on the million other things that will no doubt crop up. (caregiver humor)
Best of luck, it is not easy, and it gets very expensive for both supplies and on wear n' tear on your / your mom's bodies & minds. Take yourself & mom out of the picture - give yourselves a respite break..
i keep brief on dad during the day but at bedtime he sometimes wears briefs or diaper ,
sometimes his bed stays dry with the padding on it , sometimes he s soaked to the bone and its everywhere .
he cant help it , dementia ,
i just smile and say good morning !! and change him . it wont do any good to get upset over it cuz he cant help it .
i did see a male guards , looks like pad that women wear but men wears it might help alot , think im going to buy him one and try it out . will let you know if i get around to buy one .
1. Depends may not be the best brand and and you may need two overnight diapers one on top of the other. Call a medical supply house and find out options.
3. Invest in enought chux toppers for the bed - and a waterproof matress liner. Don't forget urine can cause rashes, so you will also need to make certain your mom has incontinent cleaner - no rinse is best.
2. Limit his fluids before bed, and establish a check point.
if he is rational then give him a male urine container next to his bed, if not she can try rousing him to see if he needs to go.
3. Check his medications, and see if adjustments are needed so....
4. Schedule an appointment with the urologist - he needs an evaluation. The urologist can also be helpful with training and advice on websites and publications.
It is not easy, but if you have kids you know, wetting the bed is emotional, embarrassing and not something that can be fixed by blame, so while I feel for your sense of frustration, you will have a better result and be happier if you just don't let yourself fall into that kind of self-talk. It is a no-win and what burns caregivers out fast.
Take care, be well