For 2 years+ I have put my life on hold to care for my parents. After dad died 1 1/2 years ago, I moved mom into my home. We created a two bedroom apt. in our walkout basement for her, and put in a stairlift. In this time she has fought all efforts by her doctor and myself to improve her failing health, always says she feels like and orphan, she should still be in her own home, and she is becoming more withdrawn. Meanwhile, I am neglecting my husband, losing out on time spent with grandchildren, and I am constantly stressed. Also, I am about to turn 65 and I am aging fast!
I am sorry you have put your life on hold to care for your parents. It is never an easy thing to go through and to feel like that emotionally. I have attached some good articles that can help your through this decision to move your mom into an assisted living facility.
The following articles can help you with telling your mom and transitioning her to assisted living.
How to Convince Your Parent to Move to Assisted Living
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-convince-parents-assisted-living-142136.htm
How can I get my Parents to Consent to Move to Assisted Living?
https://www.agingcare.com/Answers/How-can-I-get-my-elderly-parents-to-consent-to-move-to-Assisted-Living-112081.htm
I have also included some articles that might be able to help what your going through emotionally.
I don't want mom to move in with my family. Does that make me a bad person?
https://www.agingcare.com/Answers/selfish-daughter-does-not-want-mom-to-move-in-137859.htm
Living with Elderly Parents: Do You Regret the Decision?
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/Living-with-Elderly-Parents-Do-You-Regret-the-Decision-133798.htm
Best of Luck :)
Karie H.