My elderly mother has been living with me since she lost her home in Katrina in 2005. My mother and I are not alike in most ways. I was raised in a dysfunctional family like most people. I think a lot of my issues with her today are because of issues not resolved throughout my life. She drives me crazy. I try to keep my mouth shut but I snap at her then feel guilty. No one understands. help!
My mother's house in new orleans had to be bulldozed. Best option was to move in with me. I have a brother who is not very helpful but my mother adores him and thinks i should get along with him because i will need him someday to take care of me. my mother thinks i need a man although i've been on my own since 19 except for 4 years i was married. I am a physical therapist but have no credibility about anything with my family. My dad was the same way. If your female and his daughter ur deemed stupid. I was taking care of him (mom n dad divorced) for 2 years and he passed on a year ago. I've been treated for treatment resistant depression for 20 years and I've had therapy. Doesn't really help especially with my anger. I would like to go visit my friend in Texas but I wouldn't leave my mother alone. I have 2 dogs and she has accidently allowed one to sneak out the door. Also it shouldn't be her responsibility to care for them. I like the comment crap blizzard. It is a very good description. I would have to say i have gone over the deep end a few times. i usually go in my closet, shut the door and cry. It's hard to share my experiences with other people because they don't understand or are tired of hearing about it. It's too late for my mother to realize that every now and then i know what i'm talking about. That's never going to happen and it hurts me very much. I feel trapped and pray I can hang in there. I'm 57 and would love to go to a nursing home myself. I appreciate your support and comments. Thanks
As JessieBelle said, you need a break. God Bless!
Please let us know a bit more and maybe someone will have some good ideas about what to do.