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I'm not sure from your profile page, do you live with your mother? I think that your mom can get away with being nasty because she knows you will come along to sweep up the pieces, perhaps if you stop that she will have to accept the help she is given, even if she is bitter and ungrateful about it.
Keepingup, I thought my SIL and her husband were going to have exactly this problem. My MIL went through a string of paid "companions", at least two home help agencies terminated contracts - I couldn't think where they were going to turn next. And I honestly couldn't blame the companions: there isn't enough money in the world would persuade me to spend a week in MIL's house risking her insane, vicious, hair-trigger verbal abuse.
Oddly, my SIL's close friend had the same problem with an entirely different sort of mother in that she thought she would never get anyone to stay. She's solved it, too.
You have to persist, it seems, with agencies until - just keep praying - you find your personal Godsend Caregiver(s). MIL's has now stuck with her for well over a year, and friend's mother has bonded with someone who sounds absolutely terrifying (could carry a washing machine on her head, I'm told) but whom for whatever reason she just trusts.
Do you have a list of agencies? Any you haven't tried yet?
My mother will never leave her lifetime home. I have had people she trusts suggest it gently - she throws them out. I almost think it would be better if I just left, but who would come in for basic needs,etc. I feel so so much guilt wishing she would just go, but those thoughts creep in.
keepingup, have your Mom tested for an Urinary Tract Infection.
In older people, an UTI will make an elder be out of control regarding temperament, and other unwanted behaviors. Mom's primary doctor or an urgent care can easily run a test. If it does turn out to be an UTI then antibiotics will help clear the infection. And you can get your life back, and the cat would be happier [per your screen name photo].
Alzheimer's/dementia is tough to deal with. I would suggest you watch some Teepa Snow videos and read about validation by Naomi Feil. Are you getting helpers who are trained in dealing with PWD? I found it was very important to read everything I could about Alzheimer's and how to deal with the behaviors associated with it. Visit the Alzheimer's association website too.
I understand your frustrations... It is the toughest job you or I will ever have. Have you discussed her behaviors with her doctor? Does she seem neurologist our geriatric psychiatrist who specializes in dementia?
My mom was diagnosed in 2009. We started 24/7 care for her about 5 years ago. We did about 8-10 hours a day before that with my step dad covering after dinner and bedtime. Caregiving consumes your life, and mine.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Oddly, my SIL's close friend had the same problem with an entirely different sort of mother in that she thought she would never get anyone to stay. She's solved it, too.
You have to persist, it seems, with agencies until - just keep praying - you find your personal Godsend Caregiver(s). MIL's has now stuck with her for well over a year, and friend's mother has bonded with someone who sounds absolutely terrifying (could carry a washing machine on her head, I'm told) but whom for whatever reason she just trusts.
Do you have a list of agencies? Any you haven't tried yet?
In older people, an UTI will make an elder be out of control regarding temperament, and other unwanted behaviors. Mom's primary doctor or an urgent care can easily run a test. If it does turn out to be an UTI then antibiotics will help clear the infection. And you can get your life back, and the cat would be happier [per your screen name photo].
I understand your frustrations... It is the toughest job you or I will ever have. Have you discussed her behaviors with her doctor? Does she seem neurologist our geriatric psychiatrist who specializes in dementia?
My mom was diagnosed in 2009. We started 24/7 care for her about 5 years ago. We did about 8-10 hours a day before that with my step dad covering after dinner and bedtime. Caregiving consumes your life, and mine.