My mom’s been ill for a few months. She had congestive heart failure and then got COVID. She was in the hospital and rehab for weeks. She was able to walk in the rehab at least 50 feet with a walker, without any support and get up off of chairs etc on her own. I saw it with my own eyes and have many update from the therapist so I know she can physically do it. She just came home from rehab today. Family members were visiting and they walked to the bathroom with her just to be sure she was ok. She fell 3 times! That’s walking with a walker. I don’t understand what is happening. I know they would not have let her out of the rehab if she couldn’t walk. I’m going to have to move her to assisted living or a nursing home if I can’t figure out what is going on. Any thoughts? I would really appreciate some input. Thank you
Also, at least temporarily, put a bedside commode right next to the bed so that she won't have to walk during the night. (If you also buy the plastic commode liners, it's really not very much trouble to empty it.)
Were her medicines recently changed? If they were, then it's entirely possible that unexpected side effects or interactions are just now coming to light. One of them may be dizziness. Do a little research on your own and see if any of the medicines she is taking might be causing it. And don't rely simply on what you're told! For instance, my late fiance had terrible balance problems. I suspected that the Flomax he took for his prostate might be the culprit, but both the pharmacist and nurse insisted that his lightheadedness and balance problems couldn't be caused by it. Well, the prescription fact sheet itself disagreed: It said that dizziness was a "common" side effect!
Be a detective. Do your research. It is probably something very simple. I'm pretty sure your mom isn't falling on purpose.
And I agree that you should give her a few days to recover from the move. Even simple changes can have a big impact on ill people. Maybe discourage visitors, or keep to one at a time.
Try to walk at least every hour. When walking, make sure she is walking with a gait belt and pushing downward on walker (to regain arm muscles) with good form, it is not a shopping cart and she needs to be inside it walking (many elderly lean forward and push it like a grocery store cart which leads to falls and lack of muscle building). Try to walk her a few feet every hour and back to chair. If to the restroom, even better.
Feed a higher than normal protein diet temporarily to build back muscle loss (can be hard on kidneys but muscle loss from injury is severe, every one day of bed rest and little exercise equals a week of necessary rebuilding of muscles so you can imagine after an injury and hospitalization how many muscles are gone). What you saw was probably the only time she was able to walk.
Studies have been done and some patients (like my Aunt) never fully recover when they are in and out of hospital several times over a few months. I had no idea and would have brought her home instead of rehab because she can no longer walk safely from the hospitals refusing to walk her or do any therapy due to her dementia. Abuse. They don't even try.
I have to move into the hospitals and rehabs in order for her to get any help and actually participate during therapy with verbal cues in order for her to get the care she deserves. I would just show up and find her sleeping even though orders asked for her to be up and dressed and in activity room at all times to avoid sleeping all day. If you want your life to be easier and your Mom to be able to continue to do some self care, don't ever leave her at these places without family watching. It is horrific what I watched and I can only help my own family member. Other patients were ignored or neglected unless family showed up. That is when suddenly they are cared for and sadly, many are left there to die. Rehabs have some permanent residents on Medicaid.
With Medicare and her recent CHF and Rehab, she should be approved for PT and OT so take advantage of this. It may be a hassle to schedule and supervise but important right after discharge. I highly recommend that a family member be present and observe. Eventually you can use some of their techniques and exercises after she is no longer eligible for services.
If she is elderly these kinds of moves are exhausting especially with the health issues she has.
Make sure she eats well or has protein shakes and she needs extra rest for a few days. She needs to be hydrated and may actually be dehydrated causing more weakness.
What makes you think the falls are on purpose? Did Mother have any attention seeking behaviours before Covid? Some people hate help & others seem to like it....