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Ask his doctors about at home care from a hospice. There are also doctors who will come to your house for visits. Either your/his doctors should be able to point you in the right direction or a hospital might be able to. My mother had her toe amputated and for after care a nurse came by 2x a week. She gave us all the info we needed about at home care Drs. Then that Dr after 1 ish yrs gave us and helped me enroll my mom in at home hospice. Medicare and her IBS took care of bills
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"Also, apparently, a nursing home or assisted facility is absolutely out of the question because my FIL's mom died in one".

Sorry, I am still stuck here. And I suspect the family is too..?

Who said that?
The OP? The Husband? FIL?
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I don't understand...he is too proud to take help with his pills but has NO PROBLEM with his son cleaning his dirty butt? Maybe your husband should blow up at him and tell him he is done doing this type of clean up.
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Does father in law qualify for Medicare or Medicaid?
If he is not yet 65 years of age, but is disabled so that he can no longer work, then you help him apply for disability Social Security, and if that is approved, he will also be automatically enrolled in Medicare.
Medicaid covers medical expenses for people with low income.
You say that a nursing home is out of the question. For Him.
There will come a point when it is no longer his decision. If family (you and your husband) can't take care of him, and he can't afford a home health aide, then a nursing home is where he needs to be.
The next time he is in the hospital, Don't pick him up and take him home! The hospital has social workers who will work to find a suitable solution. They will likely transition him to a skilled nursing facility with a medicaid application pending. Keep in mind, a skilled nursing facility can be used short term. He doesn't have to spend the rest of his life there if his condition improves. Many young adults spend months in a nursing home to rehab after a hospital stay, before going home again.
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Igloocar Sep 14, 2024
As a point of clarification, you don't get Medicare immediately with SSD, but rather, after a year has passed since the date that the SSD begins. The SSD is often backdated when awarded to the date of disability, so the wait for Medicare eligibility may not be long from the current date. That happened to me when I was awarded SSD. I suspect that your grandfather-in-law is over 65, in which case he is Medicare-eligible.
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