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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Please keep coming back to this site, but also seek some medical help. You may be suffering from depression - so common among caregivers.
You are not alone if you say something out of stress and then feel bad. You are not a bad person and don't need to feel ashamed. But you do need a healthy way to let go of those feelings, and people on this site will "listen." Most do not judge, as they've done the same themselves, so they understand.
That said, your lack of energy and even the shame could be helped by seeing your doctor and maybe even getting some counseling. Shame is something you don't need to feel, but you can't just bury it and say "I won't feel this way anymore." Most people need extra help to get to the point where they can "drop the guilt."
Please keep us posted on your progress. The caring people here will want to know how you are doing. Carol
fernando I used to be like that to. I now take a anti anxiety med and a anti depressant very low dosage than got six weeks worth of therapy at work. I am doing much better. I still have my moments its very frustrating just try to stop and think before you say anything because you know you can't take it back, fortunately for me my mother can't hear so she has no clue as to what I was saying. but the therapy along with the meds helps a great deal. Good luck to you and God bless we all know what a task we have and thank God we have this site and each other.
You are no different from the rest of us. We all go through these feelings from time to time. It is natural. Get help and keep writing to us. That is what we are here for. Also, listen to Carol(MindingOurElders); she is a Godsend to us. A voice of reason in a sometimes stormy sea.
Fernando, we are all here for you. Yours is a different situation in that you are living in Australia. I'm curious as to what kind of social services you have there. Are there agencies who can help your parents with their home care - maybe a visiting nurse agency or an agency for the elderly? Try doing some investigating to see what kind of assistance you can get. Taking care of elderly parents can be difficult and time consuming, as most of us on this site know. You are not alone. Keep writing to us - you have a great support group here.
thank you all, i woke this morning in a much more positive mind set, you see i hadn't slept the night before last and i was just exhausted. i have been to the doctors this morning he knows me well for i am in and out with the folks always he checked me out and found i have bronchitis and this make one feel that, they have no strength left, but my mind was better only because of the God sent wonderful people that i have found to be present on this page and in this community what a blessing for me to see such caring heart, and to read such battles going on by good people. I read through tears, but joy as well. For we would not be in this battle if we didn't love our folks with real love, you can't counterfeit this because this kind of love is the only one that weathers any storm. Carol what a nice lady you are i would love to read your book it would be so interesting and helpful i will see if i can buy a copy. But again thank you all for allowing my problem to be a part of all your life's, and then to pass such caring words that intern ease the weight that my heart felt. I can only say a very heart felt thank you, and may God bless and continue to keep you all, or better said all of us strong
exhausted i just knocked off. The work load with the folks has just gotten bigger. because there health has gotten worst. but thank God my strength has gotten firm. in my pain and years I have grown.To be more than a shaky weak tree. I am med free and faith loaded. but the battle starts and ends with each passing day. And yes Carol I did read your book, you have spirit I'll give you that, the stories were heart moving, I passed it on to another care giver and she to enjoyed it as well. 3 years have passed my God, and how many life times, I always say when we get knocked down, the one who gets up is stronger and smarter than the one who fell. sorry anonymous5546 it took me so long to get back to you but I have been on a journey. But to answer your question good thank you.I hope the years have not been hard on you, and you find yourself strong.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You are not alone if you say something out of stress and then feel bad. You are not a bad person and don't need to feel ashamed. But you do need a healthy way to let go of those feelings, and people on this site will "listen." Most do not judge, as they've done the same themselves, so they understand.
That said, your lack of energy and even the shame could be helped by seeing your doctor and maybe even getting some counseling. Shame is something you don't need to feel, but you can't just bury it and say "I won't feel this way anymore." Most people need extra help to get to the point where they can "drop the guilt."
Please keep us posted on your progress. The caring people here will want to know how you are doing.
Carol