I'm planning a small church wedding with my fiance and stepsons. I started crying b/c I wasn't able to help my dad walk again. I moved 5 years ago to be closer and help my dad. I really tried i believe in my heart but my dad always wanted to do 50 other things instead of therapy. He says he does. I know on one hand i'm not a failure but on the other my heart feels like i failed. Our chuch is small and one level so my dad can get in with his wheelchair. I'm the only girl and oldest. I'll be moving when i get a job about 2 hours away. I will still come see my dad. I'm able to go out once a week now. I'm 35 and for the first time after helping raise my youngest brother with my mom and then moving to help my dad - now having my own life. I've been in therapy for 2 years and its helped alot. but i still have this sadness in my heart.
Keep visiting when you can, help in any way that you can, but get on with your life. Please stay in therapy until you are certain you have gotten rid of the unearned guilt.
Best wishes,
Carol
Im having a hard time in some ways. I used to go out once a week to help him, have dinner, ect. I'm enjoying not doing that but feel bad too. Just needed to talk it out here. Thanks!