He could pick up after himself a bit. But since I get paid from State, he takes advantage of me. His common sense & memory loss is partly to do with tumor in brain to be removed next month & maybe dementia. It's so hard to be patient to a 3 yr. Old. I think they're smarter than him.
I don't quite understand your state deal, but, I would highly recommend that you place him in a home.
Start your life over, get a job, plan for your future.
My Dad is 90, he does not have dementia, is a stroke survivor, is in generally good health.
However, he cannot pick anything up off the floor any more. He has a reacher, but it is not good for spills, cannot pick up paper etc. It may work for a sock, but will not for a hanky. He cannot wipe up any spills that hit the floor. He will try to drop paper towels on a spill, but it is not really effective, just glues the paper towel to the floor. I do not think he has ever used a mop in his life, but now it is not manageable at all. Even a Swiffer wet cleaner would be far too challenging for him. He has a cleaning lady come every 2 weeks to deal with the spills and dropped items.
What is your Dad breaking and where? It could indicate that he needs more supports. My Dad uses a cane, so only has one hand free to carry. Unfortunately he has to use his cane in his stronger hand, which means he only has his weaker stroke damaged hand to use to carry things.
It must be so frustrating for you to be in this situation.