My FIL lives with us and is aggressive when getting into the shower and sitting on the toilet, how do I handle it with out becoming aggressive? I don't like it and don't want to hurt him or me, but he needs a shower for day care and to poo in the toilet. He already urinates everywhere else in the house, and I have gotten good ideas from all of you on here.
The trick is to keep your FIL as covered as possible without creating a mess. It can be done. When I worked in hospice this is how I showered my patients if they were ambulatory. Having a towel on helps keep someone warm and helps them feel less vulnerable. When I'd help someone to the commode I'd throw a towel over their lap as well for the sake of modesty.
It takes a little practice to get the hang of it with all the towels but your FIL will appreciate it.