I am my father’s POA. My dad is living in a nursing home. My mother is still living in their residence that they both shared before my dad left. Is it my dad‘s financial responsibility to continue to pay for all the utilities in the home that my mother is using?
If he is on Medicaid, Mom is considered the Community spouse. She should be getting enough money to live on from their monthly income. Partial or even all of it.
If he is paying privately, Mom is entitled to be supported with their marital assets.
You as POA should be seeing an elder law attorney as regards all of this.
Your POA sees to payment from your Dad for the expert care you require in managing his finances for his needs.
It seems to me if Dad is in care and self-pay, and mom in home and with her own funds to pay bills, then this division of finances is already DONE?
If so do check in with the attorney. Hope you will update with what you learn.