Throughout all of this, for the past 2 months, along with sleeping most of the day, he has dreams that he truly believes are real, and he talks in his sleep. Some of the things he says are about me and are very hurtful. Is this part of depression, the depression meds, or, my real worry, that these are inner feelings he is letting out? Has anyone else had any experience with this type of behavior? I spend a lot of time crying about this, but am I crying for nothing or are these feelings he is finally "letting out"? We'll be married 50 years this year- what a terrible way to "celebrate"!
We stopped sharing a bed years ago---as he needs to have 4 hours of TV before he can relax enough to sleep AND he needs to have the TV on all night. If I turn it off, he wakes right up and turns it back on. It's a distancing mechanism, for sure. He does not want me in 'his space' and so I respect that.
Looking for a new home for retirement. He will have a den that has a huge TV, a recliner and a bed in it. I will be in the TV-less master bedroom. Why I had to give up the expensive bed and large room just so I could get a night sleep b/c he cannot and will not sleep in a room w/o a TV is ridiculous. His therapist said he was avoiding intimacy--and yep, this did the job, for sure.
Best wishes to you and I hope that your situation improves soon. Hugs!
It might help if you talked to his doctor about these new symptoms; s/he may be able to reassure you or enlighten you about the source of these behaviors.
I feel your pain! If you've had a good marriage for 50 years, I would chalk this up to med interactions or maybe a UTI. But call his doc today to discuss!