I was a very scared and frightened child but did not know why until I left my parents' home. I learned through therapy that my parents were both narcissist, incredibly cruel and controlling. I married and had many healthy years away from the family even though when I saw them, I would have to go to bed for days afterwards as I was overwhelmed with the treatment I received on visits. I ended up in a divorce which left me little money. I started a cleaning business and supported myself for many years, but my parents asked if I would come live on their property free of charge to be their caregiver. I gave up that business and I am now stuck in the most vile and hateful situation. I am the punching bag on a minute by minute basis by both the parents. Mom always starts it, and I guess dad is what you would call one of her flying monkeys because he jumps in and abuses me on her behalf. Each day they each have a list they insist on reciting to me about everything they do not like about me. If dad is abusing me, my mother sits there and smiles. I am told almost daily that they never asked me to come, they do not want me here and I never had a business that I left to care for them. This has gone on for 5 years now. Mom was diagnosed with vascular dementia 3 years ago. She gets worse every single day. She attacks dad with viciousness and when she is done with him, she comes after me. She will be screaming to where you see the veins in her neck popping out. This literally goes on for days until she wears herself out. Then she might sit in a chair for 2 days and it starts all over again. I am at the point of feeling that if I do not get out of here, I will curl up and die. Over the 5 years and do to the move -- I know absolutely no one I can call for help. I do have some money put away but at 65 I am not sure if I could get something making enough money to rent a place to live. It is embarrassing to say, but I have thought of living in my car to get away from this. Are any of you in a position like this? And if so, do you have any suggestions? Thanking you for any remarks.
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All hopes for a better life for you!
It is not too late, it is not over yet!
I'd pack up and move to the nearest larger city with mass transit. I'd sell my car (and do away with the car and insurance payment). Get a roommate or two and get a place, or get a room in a house. Get your name on a waiting list for subsidized housing.
Consider restarting your cleaning business - even for a couple of years, to build up your confidence and get some money to allow you some breathing room. Join meetupdotcom in your area and make some new friends. Or join a faith community or go to the local senior center to meet new people. Get involved in activities you enjoy doing. You can get back to being the person you were when you were on your own and healthy.
Please come back and let us know how you're doing. You can DO this!! You've already survived the worst that life can hurl at you - now you're on the road to healing and health!!
You have to get out of there. NO ONE deserves to be abused. Next time they say...we never asked you to come...say ok then, I'll be leaving...and get out of there!!!
At 65 you should have your social security income, and you should qualify for low income housing. Get on their radar immediately!
Angel