She has no properties nor any money. I have been taking care of her finances because I had her cheque book and bank card. I have always had her the code for her debit card. So.... I have been taking care of everything for a long time but now the long term facility wants me to get power of attorney. I have 2 brothers which have given me letters acknowledging that I am to take care of my mom's health & financial issues, none have any problems with this.
How am I supposed to get power of attorney, when my mom can't communicate and can't sign anything?? Does anyone have any suggestions???
Good luck,
Carol
There is a great form on the web called, "Aging with Dignity: The Five Questions" that people can fill out with an elder that puts the elder's wishes in writing: I want this kind of treatment and not that. I want to be revived under these conditions. Getting that lets you have some hard discussions about what you Mom really wants but in a positive framework. AND it will mean that, should you need to step in, you and everyone else will know what your Mom wants you to do. You can do both these steps together, or consecutively.
I am wondering if what feels scary about this is not the practical steps of getting MPOA, but the idea that you might be "in charge" of your Mom, and could make a "mistake." The thing to know is that it empowers someone to have a MPOA appointed, because they are selecting an agent, of sorts, to speak for them when they can't. You aren't in charge; your Mom's wishes are in charge. You would just be the mouthpiece for speaking those wishes.
I hope this helps! Good luck!