My mother in law's live in caregiver has been with her for 3 years now. Every 6 months the POA had given her a generous raise. This year he hired another caregiver in addition to the regular one. We see the usual "hinting" going on trying to steer us for a raise. I see it now as manipulation when now I recognize the pattern. 1.The thank you so much for giving me this job. 2. I have been doing extra things around the house 3. I just love your MIL etc etc. (The extra things done only lasts briefly). Our dilemma is since the caregiver is now working 12- 16 hours and a projected total of 24 hours less/month and the other caregiver has to be paid for this time, Should the regular caregiver receive a raise for working less hours? She still gets paid her regular pay even though works much less hours.
1. The caregiver thanking you for the position is most likely sincere.
2. The caregiver pointing out any extra deeds is most likely her way of showing her appreciation for the bonuses.
3. The caregiver has spent many hours a day with your MIL over the past 3 years and has grown to love her.
Your MIL is receiving good care and the caregiver is being well compensated.
....Sounds like a win-win situation!
But FIRST, be certain that what you are paying is at the higher end of the going rate in your location. You might call an agency and find out what it would cost to replace her.