off of me to help me to be able to handle the stress of taking care of OUR parents. All I asked of them was $40.00 per month from each of them. A whopping $200.00 per month for all I do for OUR parents. I don't see that $40 is so much to ask from each of them since they do basically nothing for them and believe me they can afford it!
I received a call from one sister (which in my opinion is the busiest) and she galdly agreed to send me the money, she took the time to call. One sister said she would "think about things". Please....what is there to think about.
So long story short, I can not emotionally, mentally, physically keep caring for my parents. How do I handle the guilt of telling them they will have to care for themselves? And no, I don't believe they have the money to pay me themselves. My brothers and sisters do not want to help with my parents care b/c they know how hard it is to be around them.
I ended up getting a response from 3 of my 5 siblings and they each agreed to give me $40.00 a month. So I will hopefully receive a whopping $120.00 (total) per month help from them.
There is NO SHAME in admitting that you can't care for your parents in any longer. You need to be a rested, relaxed daughter to maintain your love and patience when you ARE with them. By letting someone else worry about the utility bills, the meal prep, medications, transport to doc visits, activities - it frees you up to visit a few times a week, to be their advocate with doctors and enjoy their company. It frees you up to do things you enjoy too. It's not selfish or self-centered. Don't feel guilty, you've done all you can and without anyone else to help your resentment toward your parents and siblings will only grow. It will eat you from the inside out - I've been there and done that. It's NOT worth it.
Best of luck!!