My husband has vascular dementia. I am his sole caretaker. He has medicaid. I am trying to find facility for my husband. I have been taking care of him for over a year. I can't do it anymore. Just cant get anyone to help me. He is violent sometimes and I cant handle him. We have an 11 year old son too. Please any advise? Thank you
The visiting nurse offered Excelon patches, and they worked so well my mother became gentle and enjoyable, but still with a bit of an edge toward my father if he came into her sight or if he was mentioned.
Excelon is used primarily for patients with Parkinson's, but they worked miracles for her bipolar, too. Her final months were in stark contrast to the last few decades of her life.
First you medicate the nasty patient. Then you teach the family how to redirect the conversation or get up and leave if they can't. My SIL actually needed BP meds to be able to stay calm when mom got nasty.
Ask them to help find placement. When I looked for my cousin, I researched Memory Care facilities, called them and asked if they accepted Medicaid, if they had an opening, went to tour and met with the director.
Have you video taped his behavior so the doctor can see what is happening? His condition could be fluctuating and when he's in the hospital he improves, but eventually relapses.
Is he taking the same medication when at home as he is in the hospital? Any chance he's tossing his meds at home?