My mother constantly asks about my daughter, her only grandchild, who is away at grad school. My mom thinks she still lives at home. I thought maybe including pictures of where my daughter is and notes of what she’s doing would help my mom. But I may be grasping at straws...
At one point she asked who was that man was in the photo next to her "all dressed up". In hindsight, I think she would have grasped everyone at younger ages because that was where her mind was.
Dementia, sends the mind into loops. She probably thinks of your daughter as a child. You can just say she is in school and let it go at that. But a few photos to look at from time to time is fine. Just don't set yourself up for disappointment - She still may not know who is who.
Oh how I wished I would have found my parent's photo albums and boxes of loose photos back when they were still alive. I have so many photos of people I have no clue who they are. Thus, I was thinking, clnolin, if your Mom's memory is back decades ago, maybe she can help fill in the blanks of any old photos you might have. You can try with a couple of photos, and if Mom doesn't remember, then don't attempt to try it any more.
Another thing I wished I would have done now that I am building a family tree, was to ask my Mom the names of her grandparents as I just can't find anything on Ancestry or in any old notes. Grab that information now in case you, or your daughter want to do a family tree.
Some years would have pictures of my husband, kids, and myself, with as many of my mom and aunt also in those photos. Other years it would be pictures of my mother and aunt with their siblings, in their youth and in old age. Other years might be 13 pictures (one for each month, and one for the cover) of a loved one's wedding.
It was an inexpensive gift (under $20.00) that they each treasured, and I had fun picking out the pictures each year.
Best wishes.
our mom is in whatever stage of dementia that makes her not want to do anything like look at the pictures i have assembled for her... this extends to activities as well - she just complains and states 'there's nothing to do here' or 'i don't like any of those activities' or, re chair exercises 'that's not exercise!' ornery, blaming, accusing...recently shocked me saying 'oh, yes i'll do that [singing group] then 'i changed my mind' and a very stubborn one it is.
a bit off topic, the above, but this forum is wonderful for gaining insight and support - or - for venting a bit! lol
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