He tells me he is going to work he has not worked in about 8 years. Asks me where are the women who work in our home. We have no one who works here. Says people are stealing his clothes, no one come here so that is totally impossible. Something of his is always missing, but nothing is. Asked me where is Lois? I am Lois.
Help me help him.
http://memorycarehs.org
They're a non-profit whose main focus is on supporting caregivers at home; but after a bit of digging around on their website I also see that they have good links with dementia care and memory care providers and facilities. There's a helpline number on the site - if I were in your place I think I'd give them a call.
PS - But what BB said first - talk to his doctor, and don't be shy about the impact your poor DH's condition is having on you. You matter too.
Is this new behavior that started suddenly? If it is, it may be hat he has a urinary tract infection. Make sure the doctor checks for that.
If he becomes out of control or violent, call 911 and have him taken to the ER.