Both parents in serious need of medical & physical assistance. I've been ONLY one living here & caring for EVERYTHING, while disabled & financially dependent on them (ma). Ma & niece snuck off to sign over things to niece, while ma mentally & physically incompetent and refusing medical attention. Only 2 almost die. Ma & niece have been using & abusing my dad for last 4-5 yrs (ma, always), while forcing, threatening & manhandling him into giving over all control of his $. I'm 56, losing my medical fight, been pleading for families help for parents because I CAN'T do it anymore! Any referrals for Narcissist & a families cycle of abuse "Attorney" my dad can afford. Elder protection is a huge concern. Thank You
Plus, if either parent has dementia, she/he would be unable to agree to a divorce if he/she cannot understand the documents. In fact, whatever legal documents your Mom had signed giving everything to a Niece, may not hold up in a Court of law, as your Mom probably didn't understand what she was signing.
As for your Dad finding an Elder Law Attorney, if he is able to understand a legal document, scroll to the bottom of this page.... click on "Elder Law Attorneys" and following the request. That is how I found an Elder Law Attorney for myself :)
Does your Father want to divorce your Mother?
If your Mother has such control over your Father it is unlikely he will go through a divorce and you cannot have his divorce for him.
If your Father is incompetent, not sure if any divorce attorney is going to want his case. If they do, does your Father have the funds to pay for it?
Does your Father have an assigned PoA?
It may make more sense to call social services for your county. If you're worried about losing your residence, there are probably exceptions since you are both disabled and ill. Talk to social services and find an advocate.
You've been pleading with your family to help, but seems like they're not interested or have no power. Time to call county social services.
At 56 you say you are losing your medical fight. What fight is that?
Why are you dependent on them, financially; can you tell us a bit more about that?
To be honest you are dealing with a marriage here in which your father, when able, did not leave. You have a mom and a niece working together to care for Dad and for you?
I think you need the intervention of APS.
If you call them and they are unable to help, then I feel that you must save yourself.
And if you are financially dependent on them I don't quite know how you do that. Our cities are full of tents of those who have no choice but to be in them given a set of circumstances that built for them over time.
I wish I had something to advise you.
I just do not.