My childhood friend is looking after her 90 year old mother. Her siblings took her house, sold it. They took all her money and some properties, cottage. All worth millions. She was put in a home with no care there to die. My friend took her out and is fighting to get her mother's stolen assets back. My friend had to quit her job and took her mom out of this horrific home and is doing an amazing job looking after her. She got a lawyer and paid him $30K and it's been a year and he has done nothing but says he has done research. My friend had done all the research already. What can my friend do? She is like a sister to me and it breaks my heart that her mother is heartbroken and my friend's inheritance was stolen as well. She is physical, mentally financially drained.
You, as a friend, I am sad to say will have little power to make any real difference here.
I can only suggest you be there for your friend to listen with an open heart and soothing words.
It sounds like a perfect mess, and Dickens spent a lifetime writing about the vagaries of getting caught up in law cases over decades--over a lifetime.
There's an expression that is " Like Jarndyce versus Jarndyce" taken from his infamous novel Bleak House. The expression means "endless and hopeless legal entanglements."
I am sad to say not everything can be fixed, and if THIS can be, it surely isn't in your purview. You just have no power to wave a magic wand. Be there for your friend to comfort and listen. Again, I am very sorry.
I agree with the others. We are not getting the full story. I have a suspicion that if we talked to the siblings we would get a vastly different story.
It’s lovely that you want to help your friend. This is none of your business, and I fear that the situation has been exaggerated rather much, though your friend has taken on a difficult job and may be headed for burnout. Not much you can do about that. I’m sorry.
The Mom is 90. If she had cognitive capacity at all, she'd have been able to check herself out of the facility. If she was being neglected, your friend could sue the facility. If her siblings committed financial abuse, she'd also have a strong case. Maybe she doesn't have a strong case and this is why the lawyer is dragging his feet, using up the $30k.
If the lawyer can't help her, there's nothing we (private citizens, non-professionals) can do since the lawyer has all the facts and we don't; plus there is always the other side of the story that your friend is not telling you (family dynamics, etc). We don't even know what state this is all taking place in.
Please note that your friend didn't have her inheritance stolen if her Mom is still alive. This is about your greedy friend feigning concern for her Mom when she's concerned about her Mom's assets and an inheritance that hasn't even happened yet. Sorry. Don't lend this friend any money.
There is no inheritance until someone dies . The family must have been paying for the woman’s care in the facility from the woman’s assets .
I suspect you don’t have the complete story .