Married 62 years and spouse has suffered from severe pain for the last 6 years. He is on very strong narcotics which has affected his mind and is very demanding. Spends most of his time in bed. No family in area and no one to help or talk to. Have become depressed and feel guilty because I have become resentful for something that is not his fault.
Now your husband might need to be reevaluated by his Dr. for his pain, as he might have gotten immune to what he is on and it might be time to try something different. I know my husband in his last 22 months of his life was on morphine first, and when that quit working he was put on hydromorphone, and then finally fentanyl. His fentanyl pump was eventually raised to the highest level possible to try to keep his pain under control, but eventually that still wasn't enough to control his pain, and in his final weeks of life even with the addition of hydromorphone again, his pain still was not under control, and it was heartbreaking to watch him suffer so. So please take him to his Dr. and see what can be done for him. You might find out that there's more going on with him than you know. God bless you and keep you.
I do hope your situation improves soon. Keep us posted.
I was pretty cavalier about long term pain issues until I became one of the people who wake up in pain and am in pain all day long. Arthritis mostly---somedays it's just brutal.
I do take a mild narcotic daily. If I didn't, I would not even be able to move. I watch with sadness as my knuckles begin to swell and ache. I'm only 64--and this is only going to get worse.
This doesn't sound right. Before you feel guilty yourself, you ought to be very sure that it's what you think it is. Lying in bed, being very demanding, and taking narcotics is not unknown for other reasons.
When dreams aren’t fulfilled in our lives we are disappointed and even resentful at times.
It’s very monotonous and extremely difficult to face the same scenario day in and day out.
It’s much easier to face a situation when we know it is temporary. When there isn’t an end in sight we can sink into depression and anxiety. Please find someone to speak to.
Vent on this forum. We have lots of members that will share their experiences with you. Hopefully you will find people that you connect with.
I personally feel that you are being too hard on yourself.
Do you get a break from your husband? Even in a marriage where no one is sick, we need time for ourselves too.