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He is 78-years-old, 79 in a couple of months. He does not currently have a dementia diagnosis. He thinks about it, talks about it, wants it all the time. At 70 myself, I’m not so much interested anymore. I love him very much and try to accommodate him but it is getting more and more difficult. Suggestions? Is this normal for an elderly man without dementia?

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Get him tested for dementia stat. ISB is Inappropriate Sexual Behavior and common with dementia. Meds ARE available to calm him down. Get dh a full physical with cognition test, and go from there.
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According to Verywell Health hyper sexuality can be caused by

-Medication side effects, specifically those that target dopamine, like those used for treating Parkinson's disease
-Medical conditions such as dementia, Alzheimer's disease, Kleine-Levin syndrome, and other neurological conditions
-Disruption or imbalance in neurotransmitters (brain chemicals) like dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine
-Past trauma, which may lead to hypersexuality as a coping mechanism

You should probably ask about checking for any brain abnormalities or new medications that could be contributing to this.
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Being hypersexual is a sign of dementia, why do you not think he has dementia? Has he been tested?

Sit him down and tell him exactly where you stand, you are not an accommodating blow up doll, you are a human with a mind of your own.
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cover9339 Apr 5, 2024
It can not be he enjoys talks about and wants to do it?
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No, I would say, As Igor says to Young Frankenstein, it's abby-normal.
Most men hit a sort of menopause of their own when testosterone levels go down during aging. Reassure me that he is not being given any testosterone by his GP.

So in all truth you are not noticing ANYTHING else.
Because hypersexual behavior that wasn't there before most often indicates some dementia.
They say that, and executive functions being a bit "off" are some of the early signs.

I would be honest with him, that you are attempting to accommodate as you say, but that you have your limits. First decide what those limits are for yourself, then explain them to you.
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Is this a new behavior?

What do you mean by "He does not have a dementia diagnosis." According to who? Perhaps he just hasn't been diagnosed yet...?

Has he ever had a cognitive test? Or, are you getting this information from him?

Maybe it's time to discuss this with his doctor because it is one of the many behaviors that can come with FTD and other dementias.

"Hypersexuality and inappropriate sexual behaviour (ISB) may be the first symptoms of early onset frontal dementia. Frontal cortical brain atrophy on MRI is important for diagnosis. ISB may be under control with risperidone and olanzapine treatment."

Source: https://casereports.bmj.com/content/2015/bcr-2014-207864#

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/advances-in-psychiatric-treatment/article/hypersexuality-in-dementia/E2CFB1E9F2791BBCAE15F9580388BD19

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3596488/

https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/daily-living/challenging-sexual-behaviour-dementia
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rcnyc2364 Apr 5, 2024
Agreed. My mother, as her dementia progressed, had sex on the brain. She didn't want to do it, but would keep talking about sexually graphic topics out of the blue all the time, even using vulgar language for body parts, almost like when kids discover dirty words for the first time. Hopefully, in OP's case, it may not be dementia but it could be if husband has never been sexually obsessed or explicit before.
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