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Ask them if you're in the will. If such is the case that you are their caregiver you have a right to see their Will and have it legally stated in writing what you stand to inherit.

Personally, I don't believe family caregivers should work for free under the condition that they will inherit when the LO's estate is settled. They should be paid regularly every week or month or whatever pay arrangement is agreed upon. If they aren't going to be paid literally by check, then the LO should sign over whatever property they are going to use as payment.

So many family caregivers get burnt right and proper when the LO passes away and no mistake. It usually turns out that they either get nothing, or they get equal a share in the estate that family members who did no caregiving are inheriting.

If you're the caregiver to them, see it up front and legal writing exactly how you're going to be compensated for your caregiving.
Never do the work now get paid later set up because that usually leaves the one doing all the work out in the cold when it comes time for compensation.
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From the wording, I gather that Nany and Papa have passed away. In that case, they are unlikely to be able to reply.
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BurntCaregiver Sep 2023
@Fawnby

Your response isn't clever with sarcasm being the lowest form of wit of course. More likely English isn't the OP's first language so the wording is a bit confusing.

Everyone knows what 'before' means.
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Wills are registered in your county when they go through probate. If this was a will, and not a trust, it is a public document. If there is an executor they have a certain mandated time in which to notify all heirs or beneficiaries that they ARE beneficiaries under a will.
Hopefully you were not put as POD (pay on death) on any accounts, as banks are not obligated and do not notify often enough.
You should/could also ask who is executor of their will, and simply ASK that person. That certainly is the easiest way.
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If you are in the trenches as a caregiver, I think you have a right to know and I would ask, especially if you have taken a step back from your life to help them.

If it is just curiosity, remember the best plan is not to have any expectations of receiving anything. It will then be a happy surprise if you do.
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If you are in the Will, the Executor will contact you to distribute to you what they left you (or sometimes a check is just mailed if they have an accurate address for you, like certified mail so that you'd have to sign for it), but sometimes the distribution takes a while because the Executor has take of any unpaid debts and other leftover matters, plus their estate may have to go through the probate process.

You can check with the probate court in the county where they lived. Since it is a public record, you can request to see the Will's filing.
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I hope you weren't the 24/7/365 caregiving slave for nany and papa with the expectation that you would be given money from their estate. Is this the case? Are you now afraid there are/were no provisions in their wills for you?
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If they are still alive you ask them.
Their response will be one of two ways.
1. They will tell you.
2. They will tell you it is none of your business.
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In my state, wills that have been satisfied can be found as public record online.

If they have not yet died, the only way to learn the contents of wills is to ask.
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Have they already passed away?

If they have, and the will has been filed for probate, the County Clerk will have a record of it.
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That's a question for nany and papa. If they feel comfortable discussing it with you, they will.
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