My mom is 91with dementia. She lived by herself until the Dr. said she needed skilled nursing care which was in May of this year.She was hospitalized for a week and didn't even know where she was.She thinks a man is going to kill her and put her in the river. She was like this before the episode in May.Every where she goes the man is there.I need advice because I'm sure there's others on the site who have dealt with this.Thanks
Do you have any issues with the care she's getting in the NH she's in?
If not then leave her there.
Her doctor can prescribe medication to help with anxiety. Other than that there's not a lot that can be done.
Is she a religious woman? If she is then maybe you can have her clergy come by and give her a small cross she can wear or some other symbol of faith that can be a comfort to her.
It sounds to me like she's in a dementia loop. Does she tell other people in the NH about this man trying to kill her or it is only you?
If it's only you, then she may still possess enough cognitive ability to put on a "performance" for you. If such is the case, tell her thats not true and refuse to discuss it further.
If she tells staff members, then she really needs some medication to help her be calm.
Who knows what's going though her fractured mind? She may be remembering a scary person from her childhood or a character in a movie.
Ask for some anti-anxiety medication for her.
You are safe here.
I told them at the desk not to let "the man" in.
I am working on finding you another place but I have not found any as safe as this one.
Keep telling her that she is safe where she is.
I agree with others to talk to doc about anxiety meds.
The sister in law was the designated caregiver, trustee and had all control.
RE the NH situation, check out if she is right. Some places are nice when the family is visiting, but horrible behind the scenes. I don’t like facilities, so I care for my husband at home.