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I lost my mother at 2 years old, she was 39 and left behind 7 boys and 3 girls my baby brother died at 6 months old I do not remember that. My brother committed suicide when he was 30. I was 19 my father died when I was 25. Since then I have lost a brother in 2000 he was 40 I lost my oldest brother in 2016 he was 70 I also lost another brother in 2021 he was 74. My best friends die in 2013 along with my pretty kitty. I’m only in my 50’s. I feel life pounded my brain and my heart. I am never happy. It’s terrible. I’m always so sad.
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SophMatt Aug 13, 2024
So sorry for all your loss. So much in one lifetime ❤️
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This post is 3 years old
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NeedHelpWithMom Jun 16, 2024
I wonder why AgingCare doesn’t close down these old posts.

Perhaps, they feel like the topics are timeless or there may simply be too many questions to keep up with.
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Admin. Could we not have this shut down for posting to.
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I too feel this way. I wish I could offer some advice, but I suppose I have come here looking for some. I was the last of 4 children. My parents were slightly older than kids my ages parents. Both my parents had children from previous marriages, much older than myself, I was the only one born from them both. They both passed away within 5 months of each other when I was 30... 3 years ago. So out of all my siblings, I was the only one to lose both my biological parents. My last remaining grandparent passed away previously, that same year. My siblings have all fought over estates and gone separate ways. I have one remaining brother that I'm in contact with, who is 11 years older than me. I grew up almost feeling like an only child. Although it's not his fault, the age gap has always created a distance between us. We struggle to connect and talk and it makes it very difficult when that is your only remaining family member. I will never speak to my 2 other siblings again. Unfortunately, they revelled in my mums death, and I will never be able to forgive them for being so opportunistic and cold following her death (who was not their biological mother and which their mum still lives). I understand people behave out of character during grief, but some things are unforgivable.
It's the first time in my life I've ever really felt loneliness. And I just don't know if this feeling will ever stop. Someone in the comments said you will never be the same, and I whole heartedly feel that. It's terribly sad to say, it is comforting in knowing there are other people in the world who understand and feel the same.
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I too feel this way. I wish I could offer some advice, but I suppose I have come here looking for some myself. I was the last of 4 children. My parents were slightly older than parents of kids my age. Both my parents had children from previous marriages, much older than myself, I was the only one born from them both. They both passed away within 5 months of each other when I was 30... 3 years ago. So out of all my siblings, I was the only one to lose both my biological parents. My last remaining grandparent passed away previously, that same year. My siblings have all fought over estates and gone separate ways. I have one remaining brother that I'm in contact with, who is 11 years older than me. Because of the age gaps, I grew up almost feeling like an only child. Although it's not his fault, the age gap has always created a distance between us. We struggle to connect and talk and it makes it very difficult when that is your only remaining family member. I will never speak to my 2 other siblings again. Unfortunately, they revelled in my mums death, and I will never be able to forgive them for being so opportunistic and cold following her death (who was not their biological mother and for which their mum is still alive). I understand people behave out of character during grief, but some things are unforgivable.
It's the first time in my life I've ever really felt loneliness. And I just don't know if this feeling will ever stop. 3 years later, I'm not sure what I'm doing, other than just floating through life. Someone in the comments said you will never be the same, and I whole heartedly feel that. It's terribly sad to say, it is comforting in knowing there are other people in the world who understand and feel the same.
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I read your blog on what happened to you and it seems we have an almost identical problem with some different variables.
Please send me a hello email and I'd like to open up a dialogue about this matter. Take care.
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It’s crazy how Google brings you where God wants you to be. These answers are all the things I feel. My grandfather is currently in the hospital dying from Covid … the same way my mom died 3 years ago. But he’s in Italy. I won’t be with him as he passes just as I wasn’t able to be with her. So as passes, the last of my heritage and memories die with him. I have no one left now. His passing is so much more than him leaving me. It’s the complete ending of my life and dismantling of my family. Those memories and that heritage level with him. My kids and my husband don’t have those stories and those moments. The things I couldn’t remember, my grandpa did. Now it’s over.
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Tynagh Sep 23, 2024
Maybe you can share your stories and memories with your husband and kids? It won't be the same, but you can relive your heritage and memories with them.
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I lost all of my immediate family with the exception of one older sister and a brother who is about twelve years older than me. I just came across this post even though it is three years old. I feel so alone today. I lost my older brother in February. I lost my younger sister in 2015, my dad in 2014 right after Thanksgiving, and my husband in 2016, a few days after Thanksgiving. So holidays are hard. I'm going to put up a tree even if it is one from the dollar store.

Grief doesn't end. It is just a matter of managing it. Some days are harder than others especially Sundays when I would hear from everybody. I would say that it get easier with time, but who am I fooling.

I scrolled down and saw that I posted before. I'm leaving this up anyway.
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