She lives alone, I take her all her meals, doesn't remember whether she has eaten or not, not changing clothes and now not bathing. I made the mistake of saying she had walked up to my house one night to tell us there were people in her house who would not leave and now he & a social worker at the hospital both marked wanderer on their FL-2 forms so she was rejected at the facility.
They welcomed her with open arms. :-)
I agree with all those who have said look for another facilitiy, wandering is a definite need for in, when considering memory care - anywhere that will not take her on the grounds she wanders (which is debatable with the circumstance you give) is not one I would consider likely to fulfil other needs either, it seems to represent a lack of care.
I am confused by your post, because where I live, MC is the very place you would place a wanderer.
If your mom can live alone I would question her need as her doctor as well. Typically the person needs to be cared for 24/7 before a doctor will say that they need a facility.
Sometimes we just have to stop propping them up so that they fail on their own before we can get the help needed. It's a terrible system but, that's how it works.
If that doesn't work, get a new Dr.
She could have a UTI or just be dehydrated, which causes hulucinatiins.
But, those memory places are not great to live, especially at this time with Covid.
Your mom would be happier living in her own home where she is familiar.
It really doesn't matter if she doesn't remember if she ate or not.
She'll eat when she gets hungry.
My 96 yr old Dad eats a little every 2-3 hrs.
You could install cameras in her home and tell her to call you instead of walking over.
She may have just had a dream or saw shadows.
You should deffiently talk to her about staying in her own home or moving to a facility.
Those facilities are not what they make make them out to be.
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