The doc thinks Mom has Lewy Body Dementia. She is having increased difficuly with hallucinations and delusions. She has been started on medication for this and the dosage is being adjusted. Since her last dosage adjustment she is sleeping better at night but the afternoons and evenings are really bad with hallucinating and delusional thought. Obviously we need to continue to adjust her meds and hopefully they will decrease the anxiety the hallucinations and delusions cause. Any suggestions on how to help her (other than med adjustment) would be really appreciated. Often, I become the bad guy in her delusional thought process. When this happens I take the approach of what I call "watchful hiding". Keeping an eye on her so she won't get hurt but keeping out of her view. If she sees me it only seems to aggravate the situation.
We have a family friend with dementia, who sees two of the same person. She sees Bad Mary and Good Mary. Mary is her daughter. If she's upset, Mary will tell her that she's Good Mary and that seems to comfort her. If seeing you upsets her, you might explain that you are the Good daughter and that the other one has gone away. It might help console her and maybe the medication adjustment will help a lot.
Thanks for your ideas on how to deal with this.