You've all heard me here. My dad is 92. Still lives on his own. Is THE most stubborn person I know and if you push him into a corner, he comes UNGHINGED which I personally don't think is healthy at his age. He really should be in assisted living but we do have care that comes in every day. 24 hour in-home care would be cost prohibitive. I thought we were doing pretty good. I'm keeping him happy, letting him stay in his house. I have been asked to attend a meeting at the care service later this week. They said some tough decisions need to be made. I know this will include more care hours / moving dad which he WON'T do. I reached out to one of his doctors who basically told me to hire a professional guardian. My siblings would NEVER forgive me. There is waayyy too much money at stake. I've heard too many horror stories. If I say 'no', can they turn me in? If I am forced to walk away from this, I will walk away from dad for awhile and get my marriage back on track (dad takes a toll). This whole thing is so mentally draining. Maybe I should let someone else do this. I am so sad. This is going to get so much worse before it gets better.
As for "physically escorting them out the door", many people on the forum have had to use trickery to accomplish the actual move, so you tell him you are going to a new doctor's office or restaurant (take him at meal time) or that you are just popping in for a visit and then run like the wind. I know it sounds awful, but the end justifies the means.
OR as CW suggested it require trickery, or call them therapeutic lies.
Your profile states dad has age related decline. It sounds like there is some type of dementia involved. Yes?
You owe it to yourself to care for yourself including getting, especially getting your marriage back on track. Follow doctor's orders. Not doing so could get you in trouble. Doing so, you can place some responsibility for placing dad on doc's shoulders. And the guardian will prove to be a valuable resource and assistance to you, in the best interests of your dad. Sibs have absolutely no say in any of this. You are guardian none of this is any of their business. Following doctor's orders and recommendations will never get you in trouble with the court.
You need to develop a thick skin to try to get along with some twisted siblings. The doc and lawyer and judge will back you up. Hold onto that.
Don't let your sibs guilt you into not seeking out assistance with the decision to place him. Stay strong.
You will need to speak to the lawyer who helped with the guardianship. You had to go to court to be assigned, you may have to go to court to revolk it. Don't be surprised if you can't have it revolked. A lady I know is approaching 80 and has guardianship over a 50 yr old mentally challenged cousin. She is having trouble with the state allowing her to step down.