My mom is in a memory care facility 15 minutes from my home. I take care of my mom's needs and visit her every couple of days my sister who has medical power of attorney lives across the country and only visits her once a year. I am second in line for medical power of attorney however, my sister is being very difficult. Can she be removed?
This is the time for you and sis to either pull together or for you to pull back entirely, tell sis that you will allow her to make ALL decisions regarding Mom and tell her that you are happy to be boots on the ground to let her know what you see on visits IF SHE WISHES IT.
There's nothing you can do here.
Your best chance is to become Sis's best friend, so I would advise you to start LYING LIKE A RUG.
It is "Sis, I am so sorry you have to be the decision maker in all this. It has to be a terrible burden. I am right here if you want to talk or have questions I can answer. Otherwise know I trust you and I will let you know if I see anything concerning IF YOU WANT THAT." That's it. No matter how your insides curl like a new-born batch of garter snakes. That's IT.
This is in YOUR best interest but more than that, this is in your mom's best interest.
Sorry that this is how it came out. I truly am.
She can voluntarily relinquish POA if she feels you can meet the needs better and this can be done with letter best drafted by an attorney but not necessary. And, since you are secondary POA it would automatically revert to you without going through the court system as Guardianship would require.
IMHO, a POA should be local or at least not across the country.