My wife is showing less ability to remain standing while I give her a shower or just wash the waste away with a cloth. It has been very easy to remove the soiled underwear, wash and replace with fresh while she stands. But , I don't see how to accomplish this cleanup without her upright. How are others providing caring for their loved ones in this situation?
cwillie's idea of a bidet is a good idea too. It enables bathroom business to stay in the bathroom and that's very important to a lot of people. Your wife may be more comfortable in the bathroom while she gets cleaned up than in the bed.