My Mom and I live in a HUD Apartment building and it can be very trying. And after having your own home this is sometimes the pits! And Mom and I worked all our lives, we live pay to pay! But I know that Mom is tired of living and I do tell her she has to wait for God ; I hear this every day and I myself am bi-polar and it really is hard for me to have patience sometimes! I feel so bad; what can I do?
I found a hairstylist that will come to the house for my mom, age 93. She is like your mom. Does not participate in anything.
My hairstylist that also cut mom’s hair did not want to cut hair outside of the salon so I googled hair salons. Luck was on my side. The very first salon I called the woman who answered the phone said, “Sure, I can come to your house. I go to nursing homes as well!” She has a heart for shut ins. She cuts hair beautifully. Has owned her salon for many years and adores my mother. Mom is very pleased with her. Best part! She charges much less than salon prices, $25.00! I tip her well! Even though she doesn’t expect it. She is an angel. We just love her. Call around, explain your situation like I did. You may get lucky. Take care. Hard to be cooped up.
I have one suggestion you might consider and that is to involve yourselves with a local church. I don't know what your faith background is, but I would imagine that if you call one of the local churches and say that you and your mom would like to attend services but have no transportation, somebody will arrange to come and get you. Then before you know it you will have all sorts of activities to be involved in such as church suppers or Bingo or ladies' aid societies. Worth a try anyway, eh?
Does she go to a Senior Center or any kinds of activities for elders outside the apartment? That would be an opportunity for you both to have a break!
Can you leave her on her own for an hour or two so you can walk to the library or to a city rec center for exercise?