A very dear friend of mine cares for her mother of 95 in her home alone.
The last three months I have offered many times to help with more tasks about the home, supply transportation to and from doctor, shopping etc. She tells me that she can handle it all on her own, and doesn't want to trouble me.
Make a small basket with a few treats, some magazines, a book, all occasion cards or assortment of cards and stamps.
Or bring over breakfast or lunch with all the plates napkins, drinks, etc and spend some real time with her and her mother, maybe play a card game or scrabble together...or just visit. It will be so appreciated when you just take the initiative to plan and take the decision making off her. Certainly call the night before and tell her your plan.
It's hard for others to ask for or accept help, but kind gestures are always appreciated. Isolation for caregivers is so common and difficult as they watch friends move on or enjoy activities they can't schedule.
Good luck and let us know what works.
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