I have a friend in a nursing home. Which was necessary 2 years ago when he 1st came sick. He's much better now and with a little assistance we believe he can live alone. Does the nursing home do any testing to see if the person is capable? How do we get legal help as he is married but has been estranged for 8 to 10 years. Since he got sick she found he was getting SSDI and now she claims she needs his check 1395$ a month to live and he doesn't even get a pair of underwear from her. She does pay 750 a month back to the nursing home. Her and his 3 kids do not even visit him.
You are a caregiver by definition, and can use all the help you can get!
Good on you!!
There are caregivers here who can help you, maybe they are scarce due to the holidays, but stay with us!
igloo572
Dec 21, 2018
First, your mom & you are beyond lucky that Medicaid in her state -Arizona- will pay for AL. For most states that is a total non starter, as it’s only skilled nursing facility aka NH that is required / dedicated funding by a state in order for them to get federal $ so states only do the absolute minimum required. Kudos to AZ!
The Patient's Rights Advocate may be the best choice if you were seeking just to get Bill released from the NH.
Hoping others will come by and offer solutions for you, as this is a complicated case. Even so, you are not alone in advocating for your friend. Families run into the same challenges, often taking years for results. With the best of intentions, the money will leave you vulnerable to false accusations, no matter what you do for him. Good for you, keep helping anyway! imo.
Let us know how things are going if you can.
Thanks Janice
Call the Patient's Rights Advocate or Ombudsman about his right to go outside to get some fresh air. That can be solved.
You sound like a good friend to him. I share your concerns about his legal right to be self-determining after improving.
Gathering the information will be time consuming, may take awhile.
Is your friend in recovery, no longer wanting to drink? Did he drink while at your home? I ask because if he drinks now, this could actually be dangerous to his health. What do you think? He is still young at 59. His name is Bill!
Is he a Vetersn who may have served on active duty during a war?
In Re: Aid and Attendance Benefits to Veterans.
Has he expressed a desire to move?
There are differing levels of care and insurance likely does not provide for AL.
But I would take him to an affordable AL tour, allow them to "interview" him for the level of care he requires. (should be free). imo.
This will all be complicated if wife has POA, and financial plans have already been set for her to not become impoverished. She is "in charge" of his money...is this without his permission or done legally? Transferring POA or Representative Payee to yourself will likely result in elder abuse accusations or a lawsuit against you, imo.
So, now that he qualifies for AL, he will be ready to move when he can get down to the Social Security Office and get his check automatically deposited to his own account that he has opened on his own, (again, without undue influence). He has already opened his own P.O. Box by then. You WILL NOT become his rep-payee!
In answer to your question, one way to determine if a person can live alone is if they are competent to handle their own financial affairs, or direct someone to help them achieve that. imo.
Ask your friend what he wants, then try the above with help from a caseworker at the senior center/dept. of Aging, who can oversee protecting his rights. One can also contact the patient's rights advocate in your county. imo.
Do not worry about the divorce, because once his wife no longer receives his check, she will file for divorce to try and get support. Do they own a home together? See an attorney. Specializing in elder law, NAELA certified, through legal aid programs accessed through senior ctr/dept. of Aging. imo.
You state: "With a little assistance we believe he can live alone".
Who is "WE" ? What is his illness, and is it expected to reoccur?
Or decline, wax and wane, be cured?
BTW, Social Security laws require that a person's SSDI be spent entirely on their own needs. Has everything been done legal, with his agreement, or by wife's design?
Do not take action until you have enough information. imo.
Qualifier: Not an attorney, seek legal and medical advice, imo.
My opinion only, may disagree with the experts.
My experience only, may not apply to your friend.
Imo.
This is a really good point, looking at the whole picture is helpful!
To be honest, not sure if I would use the NH for an evaluation. Its kind of a conflict of interest. He is not in prison and is considered a resident so he should be able to see a doctor out of the facility that will take Medicaid. If he is receiving SSD he receives Medicare and Medicaid. He will need to find a doctor who excepts both. Once he is evaluated and found he can do it on his own, he has to make sure services are in place before he leaves the facility. Have him talk to the Social Worker, she should be an unbiased person. If he is told he can't be evaluated outside the facility, get the APS and Ombudsman involved. Like I said, he is a resident not a patient. He still has rights.
How will he get this assistance once he leaves?
He can request an evaluation and if approved medically he can be discharged. But he has to have a safe place to go once he leaves.
As far as the wife he could file for divorce again only if he is competent.
And if you are pressuring or showing any signs of "undue influence" there might be a problem since you are an "un-involved" person...unless you are POA for health or finance. The wife may say you are influencing him and file a restraining order. The court will not care that they have been estranged they are still married. Tread lightly