I am at my wit's end, I've tried everything I can think of to convince my Mil to bathe. She has lived with my DH and I for over 18 months, and has not cleaned herself at all in that time. I offered to help her into our walk in shower, but she was upset she would get wet and have to be undressed. I told her I could give her a sponge bath while she was fully clothed, or she could use a powdered no water needed shower soap, and even asked if she preferred to have a stranger come in to help her bathe. My Mil would have nothing to do with any of my suggestions. I've even asked for her ideas on overcoming this fear, but she clams up. I just don't know what to do, the smell is just awful. She does not have dementia, but is very difficult to deal with. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Hosing down would be excellent, at least in the summer. And your suggestion of getting her to help with your bath is brilliant. They will do things WITH you.