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I'm thinking it's psychologically healthy to plan for my future alone after my husband passes. What have other done in that regard and how has it helped them? (not financial but emotional and maybe renewed or new interests, careers, etc.)
My mom became a new woman after my dad passed. She joined a widows and widowers group and made quite a few friends. Even dated a wonderful, funny guy for years until he passed from diabetes complications. It's almost like she became free to do what she wanted again. She has developed Parkinsons and I am her caregiver (and daughter), so that put a damper on her social life. Maybe pursue your passions, develop a network of good friends (either through a group like my mom joined, or a small group through church).
If you have not already done so, get your mom an AWARE IN CARE kit from parkinson.org. The Parkinson Foundation is an excellent resource. There is also the American Parkinson Disease Association: https://www.apdaparkinson.org. The Davis Phinney Foundation. https://www.davisphinneyfoundation.org/events-list/?cat_name=educational. These three organizations can keep your mother busy and well socialized. I ask for God's blessing for the both of you. One more thing, watch out for protein, it can make the Levodopa not work.
I don't do hands on care giving but I have been 'managing' my father's life for the past 8 or so years. I never want to put my kids through what I have been through with him. The constant state of emergency got to be too much. While I hope to live NEAR my kids I would never want to live with them. And while I would hope/expect a little assistance it would all be within reason. I would not be calling them at work demanding they leave right now and come and fix my tv remote. I lost count the number of times my father did that to me.
I think that as much as possible, to stay involved in current interests and in touch with friends would be much easier, rather than finding a new life or getting our lives back after a spouse or parent passes. Care giving takes so much out of us that we tend to let go of a lot that actually matters to us. That can leave us empty and alone at some point, which can be really difficult to pull out of.
My Dh has put me through the wringer for 44 years. He's walked up to death's door 6 times that I can recollect--and I nursed him back to health each and every time.
Trust me, sitting alone in a surgical waiting room for hours on end, you begin to wise up and make plans. His funeral is planned. Our 'urns' are bought and paid for and I will be buying the niche repositories later this year.
I FORCED him to make a will--for which he was grateful, He's the kind of guy who just lets life happen around him.
I have a 'plan' for retirement if he is still living and one for if he is not.
Financially I will be fine, which is my goal. All 5 of my kids have offered for me to live with them--nope and nope. (Not ONE would take their dad in---they've all said he'd go straight from my funeral to a NH).
I don't dwell on this. I simply plan and put it to paper and then when/if it happens, I will be prepared.
I think it IS psychologically healthy, Ignoring a situation that is very likely to come to pass is just ignoring the 'what ifs' of life.
And yes, the plans change a little from time to time, but basically, it's a move closer to my 2 daughters and hopefully a life filled with positive things. My grandmother was a widow for 36 years. She did it with such dignity and poise--I have that as an example. I know it won't be easy, but marriage has been pretty hard.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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Trust me, sitting alone in a surgical waiting room for hours on end, you begin to wise up and make plans. His funeral is planned. Our 'urns' are bought and paid for and I will be buying the niche repositories later this year.
I FORCED him to make a will--for which he was grateful, He's the kind of guy who just lets life happen around him.
I have a 'plan' for retirement if he is still living and one for if he is not.
Financially I will be fine, which is my goal. All 5 of my kids have offered for me to live with them--nope and nope. (Not ONE would take their dad in---they've all said he'd go straight from my funeral to a NH).
I don't dwell on this. I simply plan and put it to paper and then when/if it happens, I will be prepared.
I think it IS psychologically healthy, Ignoring a situation that is very likely to come to pass is just ignoring the 'what ifs' of life.
And yes, the plans change a little from time to time, but basically, it's a move closer to my 2 daughters and hopefully a life filled with positive things. My grandmother was a widow for 36 years. She did it with such dignity and poise--I have that as an example. I know it won't be easy, but marriage has been pretty hard.