I have been taking care of my mother for a year in my home. She is 93. She has Lewy Bodies disease. She is so mean I just can’t do it any more. I have gone to support groups. I got a great Day Care lined up for her and she took a tour and refused to go. She is miserable and wants to make sure everyone around her is miserable. Now I am going to find an Elder Attorney to try to get conservatorship. I would appreciate if anyone has done this and what to expect.
In many states, a guardianship gives a person control over the personal, day-to-day decisions of a ward, while a conservatorship provides the authority to control another person's financial decisions. However, in some states, guardianship is the term used when the ward in question is a minor, while conservatorship applies to the care of an incompetent or incapacitated adult.
To best determine which term applies to your situation, you should look into how your state defines and applies both of these terms. Regardless of the definition, most states require an application or petition to the state courts to obtain the legal authority associated with conservatorship or guardianship. The actual steps of the process differ by state, so be sure to research what information you need to file as well as the filing and court dates you need to track .
May goal is just to get her put in a home with Medical. Which is in Ca. She refused to agree going on Medical.
For now I also agree with backing off on assistance. If anything she might realize how much you really do for her when you stop.